Understanding the celebration
Start with the moments you want to remember, rather than a list of events you feel obliged to host. You might want one ceremony and a shared meal, or several gatherings with different groups of people. There is room to decide as you go.
A little breathing room
Choose the central gathering first. Add a welcome meal or farewell brunch only if it makes the experience easier for you and your guests. Leave space for rest, travel and conversations.
Help your guests feel at home
Explain what you have chosen in everyday language: where to arrive, what to wear and whether guests are joining a ceremony, a meal or both.
Which three moments would make this feel like our wedding?
Talk it through together. Your answers matter more than following somebody else’s wedding.